I guess the dating scene has been going a little slow for me, lately. The best message I’ve received on the dating websites in a while was from a guy over ten years older than the oldest I’m comfortable dating. I’m not going for it. I also got some calls from the guy who I exchanged numbers with a couple of weeks ago, before I found out how many years I had on him. I didn’t pick up because I think the idea of being able to say “it was before your time” about too many things weird’s me out –But who knows, if things continue this slowly, I just might answer his next call. I know some people say age is only a number, but you know what, some people also say some really stupid things. Well, time to start scrolling through profiles again, this Friday night in.
Age seems only to be an issue for youth. When I was in my 20’s, I felt people in their 30’s were too old. Then, when I hit 30, I found myself involved with a 43 year old woman who rocked my world. When in my 40’s I tried to date a 20 something woman who said I was too old–despite connecting on so many views and interests. Now in my 50’s I find the same women in their 40’s are more interested than even in dating me. I score that an advantage and a pleasant one at that, but I feel like we missed out on a lot of opportunity for fun and companionship all these years because of someone else’s fear of age differences.
I agree, I think as you get older the age difference matters less. Five years is nothing if someone is 40 and someone else 45, but when you’re 10 a 15 year old is a hell of a lot older. I think it will eventually even out a little more as maturity levels even out, but I’m not quite there yet and age is definitely not ALWAYS just a number =)
Definitely depends on the person, but I have to say, the 27-year-old guy I got together with a couple weeks ago, who’s been texting me ever since? Despite our huge age difference (I’m 42), he’s got a lot of great stuff going on (even beyond the mind-blowing sex!), making him an actual contender. Doesn’t hurt to keep an open mind. ; )
But the 27 year old can still legally buy you a drink and get into a bar at least…I guess it’s that a lot of guys I know still aren’t mature when they’re even 24 or 25 years old.