I kind of sort of had scheduled five dates at once. I guess that’s partially my excuse for being busy and not posting here lately. After cutting back on my dating site screening process, it’s become a little easier to get a date. I’m in a date-mood lately, although half way through them I still get that déjà vu feeling and realize I’m sitting across from someone, telling the same stories and asking the same questions again. I even have my go to first date and second date outfits that I seem to stick with. But lately, I’ve been enjoying checking out new bars and restaurants I get invited to after such a long hiatus from dating, so I kind of told five different people I was free this weekend. I figured some of them would bail and if I had to, I could pull it off or cancel on some. In the end, I was right. Most of them rescheduled for next weekend.
I received a message from a profile with just one picture and barely any profile information the other day. Normally I’d be hesitant to reply, but I sensed sincerity and got back a lack of self confidence from him. There was a surprised inquiry about why I’d even answered him once I did. He seemed very plain. Smart, cute, but sort of dull. Safe. After only a couple of messages we exchanged numbers and he asked me to dinner. Honestly, when I got a “Hey, it’s so and so would you like to go to dinner” text I’d already forgotten about him, and thought “Who’s so and so?” I had to log back into the dating site to check. I sort of sighed and texted back that I’d go. It took me about twenty minutes to decide if I actually felt like going on the date last night. I weighed my options since it was cold outside, but getting dinner when I didn’t have much to eat in my kitchen sounded good. I didn’t tell the date that I showed up because I was hungry. He seemed surprised that it was me when I said hello and I didn’t find out why. He looked exactly like his one and only photo. Again I felt a very non-intimidating vibe from him which I liked. Once on the topic of tattoos he wanted to know why I wasn’t surprised he didn’t have any and I explained my first impression of his innocence. He said that I might be surprised about him, but then a moment later added that I actually probably wasn’t that far off.
The check came and I offered to split it. Without a moment of hesitation he agreed. I mentally removed some points from him. He did ask me to dinner and pick the place, but I also did pressure him into getting a drink with me when he rarely drinks. Later, it felt cheap of me to remove the points, and unlike what I feel would be equal and acceptable on a date, but I suppose I’ve started to get spoiled again letting others treat me to dinners/drinks on dates. We got along and I’d see him again, but he’s not the type of guy you get really excited about. I’m not sure I could picture myself too romantically involved with him, especially physically. On my way home I thought about texting one of the other potential dates I’d pushed off until next week. I remembered I hadn’t added his number to my phone contacts yet, and figured it might be too weird to go on two dates in one night. As I walked in my front door, he actually texted me and I prepared to head back out if he was interested in getting a drink. He had plans, but asked me out for coffee the next day. So, this was my back-to-back date weekend…Stay tuned to hear about the other date!
Meh! If he doesn’t make your heart pitter patter, keep it moving, girl!
In most of my experiences, I’m never very excited at first. It takes me quite a few dates in -even in what turned into my long term relationships! So, now I give everyone a fair chance unless I’m instantly very turned off. Thanks for the advice though!
I’m similar to you in that way. If they are decent and polite and a gentleman with pleasant conversation they’re worth getting to know. Even if it does lead nowhere.
I was excited to read this post because it sounds as though you may be having similar experiences as me. Good luck!
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed and thanks for reading/commenting! =)
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