I skimmed through some old messages to find those I’d politely declined conversing with. I found the guy who had me so disgusted with men/humanity I actually took a shower because I felt so awful being reminded that there are people like him in the world. His profile angered me and there wasn’t a single answer he gave to one question which I would’ve preferred hearing. From insignificant to important topics, I disagreed with or was upset by each of his answers. He actually chose answers to every question I ever thought “who would even ever choose thatanswer?!” about. Here are a few of the random questions and his answers…
Dating Website Question: Gay marriage –should it be legal? Random Guy’s Answer: No Dating Website Question: Assume you have a homosexual friend who is the same gender as you. Would it bother you if they hugged you? Random Guy’s Answer: Only if I thought the hug was more than friendly. Dating Website Question: Do you feel there are any circumstances in which a person is obligated to have sex with you? Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Is anything in life more important than your own self-interest?
Random Guy’s Answer: No Dating Website Question: Which describes you better, cool-headed or warm-hearted?
Random Guy’s Answer: Cool-headed Dating Website Question: Have you been faithful in all of your past relationships? Random Guy’s Answer: No Dating Website Question: Have you ever lead someone on romantically just for fun? Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Have you ever told someone that you loved them when you didn’t?
Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Are sex and intimacy the same thing? Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Would you honestly answer any question concerning your sexual history that a partner might ask? Random Guy’s Answer: No Dating Website Question: Have you ever lied to a partner about your sexual history?
Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Is there such a thing as having had too many sex partners?
Random Guy’s Answer: No Dating Website Question: Have you ever had sex with a person within the first hour of meeting them? Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Do you believe that men should be the heads of their households?
Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Some religions are more correct than others. Random Guy’s Answer: True Dating Website Question: Do you leave the lights on after leaving a room when they are no longer necessary? Random Guy’s Answer: Usually –This isn’t very important. Dating Website Question: Do you attempt to conserve water, energy or other resources during your everyday life? Random Guy’s Answer: No, I don’t care Dating Website Question: On average which best describes how often you get wicked drunk? Random Guy’s Answer: Twice a week or more Dating Website Question: Could you live the rest of your life without drinking alcohol Random Guy’s Answer: No Dating Website Question: Are you a genius? Random Guy’s Answer: Yes Dating Website Question: Are you a good liar? Random Guy’s Answer: Yes
…At least this extremely dishonest sounding person was honest in his dating profile answers?
(Though, I think the same thing could be said about a lot of girls.)
Honestly, what really sparked the idea for this blog was someone’s dating website profile I came across a couple of days ago. I received the message, “hey what’s up” from a random guy and I replied after I proceeded to read his profile. The page contained a long winded paragraph beginning with “I’m divorced. (Well, technically still married, but I haven’t spoken to her in over a year so it shouldn’t bother you.)” –And continuing with a detailed record of when and how they were married and that it was only because he found it to be beneficial on paper. He stated the marriage was purely for her to gain citizenship. He goes on to say that he doesn’t have any children and his wife is living in another country so none of his marriage should be a problem to anyone. The paragraph ends with “I probably won’t get divorced until I meet someone new.” The next section of his profile mentions that he used to sell pot, followed by a section in which he claims he has unpaid parking tickets. It sounded more like some sort bait for the government to find than anything else. Confused as to why someone would have this on their dating profile, I replied expressing my amusement. This continued for quite a few messages. I will only post a few excerpts from it as it’s incredibly long. I’d love to quote his exact profile, but he deleted all I’d mentioned during our conversation. Apparently he agreed with my opinion, but not enough to admit it. His profile really spoke for itself and I wish I’d have saved a copy for this!
Also, note that I didn’t call him any names or insult him as a person. I apologized for hurting his feelings multiple times, and ignored the names he called me –and he called me quite a few. I even ignored when he insulted my appearance by saying he should have checked my profile picture before messaging me (though, it’s impossible to send someone a message without first viewing their profile picture…) -Yet he still concluded that I had been a negative force. He even said that his marriage wasn’t any of my business, though he’d publicly written all about it on his page and messaged me. I think this was the profile in which I felt, “Now I’ve heard it all” about. It contained nearly every “no-no” in the book for your dating website profile and I just thought “And these are the types of people I have to weed through on here. I bet a lot of people would share my opinion on this…”
Random Guy: the way you sound-bited my marriage history really makes it sound bad. Myself: I copy and pasted what you wrote on your page. Random Guy: being an ex-weed dealer isn’t illegal nor is being married on paper
i feel stupid having to explain this, but you were pretty off. Random Guy: I married my girlfriens so she could come to the US. There are legal proceedings for that. Plus its none of your biz. I can’t get arrested for selling pot 10 years ago. Congrats on being a negative force in the universe today. You’ve done well.