Just pay attention to the dates in these messages and reconsider not deleting messages in your inbox for this reason…
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Should I have at least thanked him for the compliment?
Maybe I was a little bitchy here, but I was bored and hadn’t replied to any messages in a while…
Dating Website Conversation #25
Do you remember this conversation? Well, he’s changed his profile picture since then, and today he’s messaged me yet again. How pathetic is it that he hasn’t given up? Not one other person answering him? Look at the dates in this “conversation” with the most recent being from today. Notice I haven’t replied once? I’m getting tempted to, but I know that whatever I say, it won’t be very friendly…
Dating Site Experimets
Does anyone actually use dating sites for dating anymore, or is everything “just an experiment?” This person continued this conversation after this screenshot explaining that a friend and him were just trying to gauge reactions to their initial message. It’s not the first time I’ve received these kinds of messages either. So, has everyone really given up on these sites? Is it all just a game now that we’re all this tired of dating?…
Initial Messages
What kind of initial messages do you send men/women on dating sites? Do you think of a really creative one and copy and paste it to a few people? Do you stick with something generic, sending out massive amounts of messages, hoping someone will reply? Do you write creative well-thought out messages to each and every person? Do you consider the messages that might already be sitting in that person’s inbox and try to make yours unique? Do you stress over the wasted effort of writing a well-thought out message, only to have it ignored? How do most of your messages stack against this one I somewhat recently received?…
Age Matters?
So, there was something I left out about Mr. Perfect Profile. Besides the obvious imperfection of him standing me up twice, there was something else that I thought was minor. He was two years younger than what I’d set as the youngest age of who I was looking for on the dating site, and I was two years older than what he’d set as the age of the oldest he was looking for. I do have the age range set pretty close to my own age, so I thought I’d be a little more open-minded and a couple of weeks ago I extended the range down a couple of years and up a couple. Since I did that I’ve been stood up twice and also received this message from some random dude…
I’m pretty clear on my profile that I’m not looking for just a hook-up, you know if anyone even just glances as it, because by now we all know no one reads profiles, right? Don’t you love the part where he tells me to take his request as a compliment, too? He must be the most amazing person on earth and I should feel lucky he’d have even suggested this offer to someone like me, right? I haven’t come up with how exactly I’d like to tell him off yet, so at the moment, I still haven’t answered.
Girls Are Creeps Too!
Most of the creepy messages I get on dating sites are from guys, but girls can be creepy too! This message appeared in one of my inboxes from a girl some years older and close to 3,000 miles away from me…
Random Girl: Hiya!
ok, so I know I’m a long way away and a lot older than you….but you seemed so cool, I just had to say hi. So….hi! And hey, maybe I could be your sugar mama LOL!
Anyhoos, hope to talk to you soon. PS – I come your way a lot for work. LOVE [CITY CENSORED]!
Talk soon!
[NAME CENSORED]
I haven’t replied, but she has revisited my profile a couple of times since sending this message.
Recently Ignored Messages
Honestly, I haven’t been posting a lot because I haven’t been replying to a lot of messages. Here are a few from my dating site inbox over the last couple of weeks, which I chose not to answer for various reasons…
Random Bald Guy: Hi, love your hair!
[I resisted the temptation to reply with “I bet you do.”]
Random Guy: You look just like this one celebrity, but I don’t know if I should tell you who…
-R
[That’s actually sort of a clever way to get a response. I bet some girls really want to hear who it is.]
Then there were a whole lot of those short, generic, “Hey how are you?” messages of course, and one guy who messaged me a while ago when I’d decided to take a break from guys and who admitted to not reading any of my profile before messaging me. He followed up to ask if I was dating guys again. I basically told him that I wasn’t really interested in dating anyone now and that I wanted to “find myself,” figure some stuff out in my life and so on. He replied…
Random Guy: I love that attitude. I was the same way after a bad breakup a few years ago. I think that’s the perfect way to approach dating. You need to love yourself first.
Maybe you and I aren’t so different :)
[I told him I hadn’t been dealing with any recent break-ups, and it was just an in general sort of figuring my life out thing.]
Random Guy: Well let me know if you ever want to grab a drink and talk about it.
[Why would I go on a date because I don’t want to date?]
Random Guy (2 Days Later): Or not haha
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